"What's REAL?" asked the Velveteen Rabbit

Real isn't how you are made. It's a thing that happens to you. It doesn't happen all at once. You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in your joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand. I was made Real a great many years ago; but once you are Real you can't become unreal again. It lasts for always.

-Margery Williams, The Velveteen Rabbit

As a woman, entrepreneur, and mother who coaches other women freeing themselves from smaller versions of who they think they have to be to become the woman they know they ARE, I believe with all of my being, that we are never as beautiful as when we allow our real-ness to shine through.

And THAT kind of beauty “lasts for always”.

There's nothing more trustable to me than a woman telling the truth about the messy tangles of her life. Especially when she dares to share the less-than-celebrated aspects of her story.

These moments inevitably reveal the gems of who she actually is, in all her fullness, and all of her messy glory.

Yet, after more than two decades of wholeheartedly seeing and leading with this message, I began to believe being Real only meant sharing our MESS.

What about the radiance that also exists when the clouds part and the mess clears??

What about the joy that exudes from a woman when things are going well?

Do you have people in your inner circle who not only show up when things are hard for you, but who are also genuinely willing to celebrate the everyday miracles with you?

Or does your inner circle recede deeper into the shadows in those brighter moments?

Ask any lightening bug - shining is scary.

When your light up with the passion and excitement of being so fully YOU- the brighter side of becoming REAL- you also become instantly easy to locate in the dark. We donʻt talk about this much.

And sometimes, lightening bug, just for the sake of it, you get SMASHED between two insensitive hands or swallowed by a fly-by creature who was attracted by your light.

The risk to shine brightly when

things around you feel dark

is REAL.

Things have been going quite well for me personally in recent years. I am living out the ideal life I so casually envisioned for myself in coaching school, over 20 years ago.

Now I can say with authority is by PURE GRACE that I have arrived here (Well, that and a helluva lot of hard moments, that gave me the option to surrender to the Grace I believe is always waiting for us if only we will stop fighting so hard against it… ).

However, I’ve noticed that in the goodness, I also slowly stopped writing any blog posts, sharing on social media or sending out any emails to my list.

When things got REALLY good in my life, I stopped posting anything altogether.

And then I realized that Iʻd been hiding.

Partially, I thought, “why do I need to share my own personal experiences?” They are PERSONAL to me and to my loved ones.

I also told myself, “No one needs to hear about your blessed work, relationships, nature moment, new life lesson, or experience when the world seems to be going to shit. Just be grateful, learn from it, keep going. Donʻt rub it in.”

But just as true, I was not sharing for fear of getting lightening-bug smashed (ie. TRASHED) by some comment, some troll, or by someone who feels my share means I must be tone deaf to their experience.

Like every other worthy lesson I’ve ever learned, there’s usually more to it upon further investigation. ;)

Despite my strong desire to connect with others, and my lifelong commitment to use my own experiences to serve where I can, Iʻd unknowingly internalized the quintessentially feminine fear of being too much.

Add on the fear of joy being labeled as a spiritual bypass, and it was enough to metaphorically pull the covers over my own head, and stop sharing my real experience at all!

This fear logic was incredibly broken (isnʻt it always?)! I see that now. AND it was counter to what I truly believe and teach -that we need to EMBODY the change we want to see.

The change I want embody is a world where our truth, whatever form it takes, is encouraged and celebrated.

I also want to see our societal norm evolve to a place where our authentic joy and well-being can be as valid and expected as our challenges seem to be!

As a coach to other women, it does no good for the women I’m here to serve to allow my useless guilt to keep me silent. The high highs of my personal and spiritual life, loves lost and won and leadership wins and discoveries taught me some precious lessons that might just be the thing one other woman needs to hear to bust through her own upper limits.

If only someone would be able to reach into my vast vault of journals and Evernote and paper notebooks loaded with inspiration, ideas, programs, classes and blog posts that have never been shared with anyone else and pull out the material that they most need to hear about, I’d be all set- with much less risk.

Until I find that perfect person to partner with in my business to get these things out to the world, I need to be courageous and share more of the bright sides of my story with others, DESPITE my own lightening bug fears.

REAL isn’t just about our mess.

Mess or miracles, it’s all unapologetically us.

Being REAL, as it turns out, requires that we also must invite our RADIANT, EMBODIED, ALIGNED SELVES out for the world to see.

What will happen to the dark when we each are finally all shining in our messy, miraculous glory?

That is the REAL-volution I want to start while I still can.

Whoʻs with me?

To get more REAL now:

REBIRTH for Women (once only available as a 9-month journey), is now offered in 6-week Seasons of Change groups, four times a year (see below).

Step into the river with us wherever you are on your own Heroineʻs Journey. Each 6-week session connects with the one before yet is able to be taken on itʻs own given itʻs unique focus and guiding principles.

Every solar and lunar session is created to mirror the changes the Earth is experiencing, while our POWER Move process is conducted in light of the current skyʻs astrology.

Connect with me here to learn more.

2025 Dates:

Winter, Deep Within, January 24 - February 27, 2025

Spring, a Time to Plant New Seeds, April 11- May 22, 2025

Summer, Passion Play, June 12 - July 17, 2025

Autumn, Letting Go, September 11 - October 16, 2025